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Five Ways to get over Feeling Like a Fraud

Five Ways to get over Feeling Like a Fraud

Sometimes I feel like a bandwagon creative, a fake, a phony, a fraud, and a wannabe.

It’s hard to not feel that way. All the creatives I know have wanted to a create as far back as they can remember and I’m just now getting the courage to chase a creative career. It doesn’t matter how much praise or high fives I receive whenever I’m about to hit the submit button or e-mail someone for a collaboration. I always feel like I’m about to be caught. Everyone will know that I’m a fraud.

Nia's 25 Daily Reminders

Nia's 25 Daily Reminders I wrote this list during a really challenging time at work this past holiday season. From September to December every year is peak season at my job. All retailers have a peak holiday season but ours is rather unique. Our workload grows 300 percent, it's extremely challenging but the pressure has turned me into a diamond. This was my first holiday season as a manager and there were many challenges. I wrote this to help me focus on the positives in my life. It consist of simple phrases, and simple words. The list is in no particular order:

1. You have built a beautiful life...GO HOME to it.

2. Give your very BEST and know that it is ENOUGH.

3. Your team is awesome...don't forget to tell them!

4. Delegate!

5. Don't get stressed...Get smart!

6. Read and respond to your e-mails people are waiting...

7. Write a thank you note...someone deserves one and sometimes just a "thank you" is not enough.

8. You have support!!! Ask for help.

10. You have so many people that love and support you...call them if you need to.

11. Be present but know that your future will be greatER.

12. Whatever it is...this too shall pass.

13. When you can...do the kind thing.

14. Holding people accountable is hard in the moment but it's necessary. DO IT!

15. Love...you have a great one. Text him!

16. Your cousin will be here this week...she's having a baby!! Quality time will be everything!!

17. Mommy is planning such a wonderful time for the holidays. She's the best. You have to help.

18. Ninon, Nikki, and Nidine. You are so proud of them. The best siblings EVER! You have the best family EVER!

19. Linda Joseph...you owe her a gift!

20. Wise words...

21. The Struggle...

22. Prayer works. God is REAL.

23. Be Beyonce

24. Style

25. The GlamSavvy Life

Remember who you are...ALWAYS!

Although I wrote it months ago, I can still count on this list to help me through difficult days. Taking a moment to remind yourself of your truths is a great way to remain focused and overcome challenges. Do you have any daily reminders? Share them below.

xoxo, Nia

Besties in Red Pumps

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There is no question we've made huge strides in the fight against HIV/AIDS, but we still have long way to go up to rid the world of this horrific disease.

Today is National Women and Girls HIV/AIDS Awareness Day. HIV/AIDS disproportionately affects minority women in the United States. According to the 2005 census, Black and Latina women represent 24% of all US women combined, but account for 82% of the estimated total of AIDS diagnoses for women in 2005.

Today we rock our red pumps to stand with our sisters living with and affected by HIV/AIDS. We rock to red pump to empower women to be in control and protect their health. If we all grab our best friends and encourage them to know their status huge strides will be made in the fight against this disease.

Women have the amazing ability to nurture and support each other through the most difficult of life circumstances. The fight against HIV/AIDS requires that support and love.

My best friend is a huge support for me. Her health is just as important as my own. So we stand together to fight HIV/AIDS and we encourage you to stand with your best friends against it too.

We laugh together, we cry together, and we stay healthy together. Our red pump is not just a fashion statement its a symbol of our love and support for each other and all women in our community.

Be sure to check out the Red Pump Project

With love, Nia

Breast Cancer Awareness Month

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Unless you've been living under a rock October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Last year we participated in the Making Strides against Breast Cancer Walk. I walked in honor of my godmother, Marcia Francois. She lost her battle just a few days before the walk. She was a phenomenal woman in every way. So full of grace. I remember visiting her at the hospital and she was still so gentle and loving after years of fighting for her life. Unfortunately, we could not participate in the walk this year but I wanted to honor her memory in a great way. So I gathered a few of my friends for a photo-shoot in her honor. We danced, we laughed and enjoyed each other's company just like she would have wanted!

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We all know someone that have survived, battling or lost their battle with this disease. We just want to take a moment to send them all of our love and support. They are heroes!

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Here are some facts:

According to the CDC breast cancer is the most common cancer among American women after skin cancer. Today, about 1 in 8 women (12%) will develop breast cancer in her lifetime. Breast cancer is the second-leading cause of cancer death in women (lung cancer is first). The American Cancer Society estimates that in 2012, about 226,870 women will be diagnosed with invasive breast cancer and about 39,510 will die from breast cancer.

Only 5% to 10% of breast cancers occur in women with a clearly defined genetic predisposition for the disease. The majority of breast cancer cases are "sporadic," meaning there is no direct family history of the disease. The risk for developing breast cancer increases as a woman ages.

The symptoms of breast cancer include:

Lump or thickening in or near the breast or in the underarm that persists through the menstrual cycle. A mass or lump, which may feel as small as a pea. A change in the size, shape, or contour of the breast. A blood-stained or clear fluid discharge from the nipple. A change in the feel or appearance of the skin on the breast or nipple (dimpled, puckered, scaly, or inflamed). Redness of the skin on the breast or nipple. A change in shape or position of the nipple An area that is distinctly different from any other area on either breast. A marble-like hardened area under the skin.

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We also want to urge women to get comfortable with their bodies. Breast self-exam (BSE) is not recommended as a screening tool for breast cancer. However, Susan G. Komen for the Cure® recommends that you become familiar with the way your breasts normally look and feel. Knowing what is normal for you may help you see or feel changes in your breasts.

Thank you to all the beautiful ladies!

Photos by Amy Hendy

With hope,

Nia