How to define what independence means for yourself and live it

What does independence means for you? This is a question that you must ask yourself as you get older. 


Everyone has their own definition of independence, and often it changes over time. When you were a kid the last thing you could do is describe yourself as independent. Sure, you may have needed minimal help with your homework and you knew how to pick out your own school clothes but does it make you an independent kid? 

If you're a college student and supposed to be "on your own", but your parents pay your phone bill, are you independent? If you're a young adult and only pay for half of your living expenses, are you truly independent? 

Everyone would have a different  response to these scenarios but the only answer that matters is the person in the situation. 

So how do you define independence for yourself? 


There are many different types of independence as well, and while you may feel you're doing great with one you could need improvement in other areas. Different types of independence include: 

  • Financial 
  • Emotional 
  • Intellectual 

These are just a few of the ways in which you can become your own person, and a stronger person.

The idea is that you can't let anyone define independence for you, you are in control of your life and how you view it. [Click to Tweet] 

If you don't need your significant other to take care you financially that's great, but there are some who do. You may not need anyone around all the time to feel happy and whole but there are lots of people who crave that companionship daily. 

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Being independent may mean being 100% on your own or it can mean only having others to back you up when you need it. Never feel bad, or make someone feel bad, because they dependent on others to lift them up. 

The best things about being independent include: 

  • Being in control of your life
  • You don't have to take orders from anyone 
  • You can feel strong when standing alone 
  • No one can control your emotions 
  • Only you control your destiny 


How do you define independence for yourself?