Self-care is all anyone is talking about these days. In fact, the hashtag on Instagram currently has more than 2.5 million posts. But we know it takes a village to reach success, so when is it necessary to reach out to others to help heal us?
Self-care means doing what you have to do to take care of yourself, and heal yourself on your terms. But just because you're focused on self-care doesn't mean that you can neglect the people who love, or get neglected yourself. As humans, we thrive off the energy of others, and being around friends and family is known to bring happiness in all people.
Squad care comes from the idea that our healing and happiness is built within community, just like the rest of our society. While self-care remains focused on what you do for yourself, squad puts the focus on community and how those in the community uplift one another.
Why is it important to learn to balance squad and self care?
Our society is built on community.
Villages, neighborhoods, families, circles of friends and even government are all examples of community. Squad is an important contributor to our overall well-being because we aren't complete when our communities are broken. Healing isn't s process that has to take place when you're all alone, but also when you have the support of those who love you.
You should be just as invested in taking care of yourself, as you are with taking care of those around you.
Balancing self-care with squad care means taking the time to call and check in on those you love, while never getting too busy to drop everything for a night in alone. Squad care doesn't require you to be with or talk to everyone, everyday but rather on your days off from self-care practices. We don't practice self-care everyday, which can leave us time to uplift other and vice versa.
Healing doesn't have to be a solo process.
Most people think that you should only reach out to your squad if you're at your whits end, or are completely broken down - wrong. It's perfectly OK to ask for help when
“Squad care reminds us there is no shame in reaching for each other and insists the imperative rests not with the individual, but with the community," said Melissa Harris-Perry, Elle.com editor-at-large in an article she wrote entitled 'How #Squadcare saved my life.'
Developing a squad care routine isn't just about calling your friends more often though; it's also about putting yourself in situations where you'll have to depend and work with other women to reach a goal. Creating these opportunities and participating in them is a large part of what squad care is about in the professional realm.
How do you balance squad care with self-care?