What to do when you don’t get along with your friend’s friends

We all have different types of friends that we hang out with for different occasions. There are work friends, hometown friends, best friends, internet friends, college friends and so much more.


We interact with these people differently, and our level of closeness also differs from circle to circle. But what happens when these circles cross paths?

If you’re a social butterfly, you probably want all of your friends to hang out with you together, but it isn’t always that simple. The average person's entire circle can range from 100-200 people, including family members.

A poll conducted by Gallup shows that the average American has about nine close friends, excluding family members. Only 2% of Americans say they have no close friends.

Follow these five rules for dealing with your friend’s friends whom you dislike, if you don’t want to be a part of that 2% of people: 

Keep an open mind. Don't be so quick to write people off. Whenever you get invited somewhere a certain friend will be, don't automatically say you're not going. People who are the best of friends now, didn't like each to begin with. People who were past enemies really can become best friends if they keep an open mind and not be so quick to judge. 

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Fake it til you make it. Being fake doesn't seem like the right thing to do but it's truly how most people are able to be cordial with others. The people at your office don't all love each other but no one makes it known publicly because it just doesn't look good. The same should apply to your friend's friends. Even if you don't like them, you should smile, say hello and laugh at their jokes for the sake of peace. 

Don’t trash talk them. The worse thing you can do is put your friend in an awkward position, and make them listen to another friend trash their friend. Talking bad about them is only going to push the person you care about away. Make it known if there's an issue, but it doesn't have to be the topic of every conversation. 

Don’t take it personal. When you have two (or more) friends that don't get along, chances are everyone won't be invited to everything - and that's OK. Don't take it personally if you're not always around when they are or if you see that they've been together via social media. Understand the position your issues puts your friend in and don't try to make them choose a side. 

Try to find a common denominator. Try and find something you might have in common with their other friends. It's easy to confuse indifference with dislike, and then we think we don't like someone when really don't know them. Strike up a conversation and see what you can build off of. 


How would you handle not getting along with your friend's friends?